“Set your sights on the
specific impossible things God wants you to trust him for in your life.” –
Steven Furtick (Pastor, Author of “Sun Stand Still”)
Many of us in our 40’s and
beyond can find ourselves in a place where the voice of disillusion beats its
oppressive drums. It’s an inaudible yet steady thump, thump, thump, beating
against our soul, depleting our potential, if we allow it.
We get caught up in the
daily routine of responsibilities and life’s worries that form. You ever notice
that there are always things to worry about?
Disappointments are the same
way. There’s a lifetime of them to
pick from, if you so desire. Then don’t forget regret when reflecting on
shoulda, woulda, coulda’s. By our
40’s, our minds have typically accumulated a live streaming video of all the
missed opportunities and moments we didn’t step up and take the chance. Perhaps we took chances on the things
that were destructive and disruptive to our lives.
Worry, disappointment, and
all the energy zapping emotions we typically generate without much effort, will
only guarantee we’ll further deplete our potential— Strand by strand unraveling
the fabric of our hopes and dreams. If we allow ourselves to dwell in sadness for the things we have yet
to accomplish, these disappointments can be debilitating. The key is
recognizing we can still accomplish these things if we make a course
correction.
Do you ever feel like you’ve
plateaud? Where you find yourself in a rut? Perhaps you are feeling a restlessness that is prompting you to make a change. I find that unless I am
intentional to expose myself to new information, new situations, I stagnate pretty quickly.
When my daughter was young
she captured a gecko and stored it in an airtight container. By the next
morning, the gecko was dead. Without a way for life-sustaining oxygen to be
introduced into the container, its ability to sustain itself on its own
resources was insufficient.
Typically, in our current
stock of well-meaning friends and relatives, they have come to grow comfortable
with the role we’ve played in their lives all this time. Sometimes if we make a
change, they are not comfortable with us. After all, they are accustomed to our
old ways. Relying only on them will keep us where we’ve been, where we are
today. But how about tomorrow? Where do you dream to be?
That’s why it’s imperative
to our growth to introduce new material, and new perspectives into our world of
the limited familiar. This includes exposing
ourselves to people outside of our normal comfortable circle. Look to people
whom you admire, people of integrity that you respect. These can be strangers whose behavior
you’ve observed. Don’t seek out people who are where you are today. Seek out
people who are where you wish to be tomorrow. Seek them out as mentors to contribute to your arsenal of
information and who can be your encouragers. We all need people in our lives
who have something to say of significance, speak with integrity, and who have
the audacity to tell us the truth.
When I’m feeling
in a rut, I look to make a shift. I put myself in places where excitement and
contagious “audacious” faith are prevalent to expand my world beyond what I am
comfortable with.
The church I attend was
hosting a conference and in the evenings the sessions were open to the general
public. I audibly expressed my commitment (at the time to the guy I was dating): “I'm coming all 3
nights!” He said, “We can ‘try’ to
come.” I repeated, “I definitely plan on coming!” I did not care whether I went
by myself, but I was going!
The thing is, the only way to get out of a rut is not to hitch my wagon to someone else’s motivation, but rather my own. If we wish to flourish, it can only be done if we commit ourselves to doing it for ourselves. If we wait on another’s timetable, we may never grow because it is always dependent on another's will. At the end of our path in life, we will be alone (even if surrounded by loved ones) in our evaluation as we wonder, did I do my best with what God gave me? Or did I wait on others to do it for me?
The thing is, the only way to get out of a rut is not to hitch my wagon to someone else’s motivation, but rather my own. If we wish to flourish, it can only be done if we commit ourselves to doing it for ourselves. If we wait on another’s timetable, we may never grow because it is always dependent on another's will. At the end of our path in life, we will be alone (even if surrounded by loved ones) in our evaluation as we wonder, did I do my best with what God gave me? Or did I wait on others to do it for me?
To change our circumstances,
to dig out of a rut, we have to do something different from our ordinary menu. In my case, I felt I had to embed myself into the powerful surge of uplifting sermons that erupt from such a conference. I just
knew that attending three consecutive evenings was going to do something
transformational for me. My expectations were surpassed.
The powerfully packed messages energized my spirit and expanded the boundaries of comfortable awareness which I can settle into
if not careful. Complacency and comfort can act to encapsulate us and slowly squeeze out the oxygen. We
can pass out and not even know it because it happens so gradually. First the
sleepiness sets in and then snap, we’re unconscious. Welcome to the unconscious state of most people,
busy going through the motions of our lives, even the motions of mechanical prayers.
I recently began reading
Steven Furtick’s book, “Sun Stand Still.” Here’s what this 30-somethng year old
pastor says about what he calls, “audacious faith”:
“There’s an unquestioning
optimism that comes as standard equipment when you’re young. Honestly, I think
it’s a gift from God. Time can talk you out of your dreams. Routine can weaken
your propensity toward audacity.”
He continues, “Don’t think
for a moment that bold vision is reserved for the next generation…audacity does
not discriminate on the basis of age or disqualify because of wasted years. No
matter how far behind you feel, or how many opportunities you’ve squandered,
you can begin to ask God to do the impossible in your life right now.”
To ask God for the
impossible, is certainly inviting change into my life. One is never too old or
too young to ask God for the impossible.
I feel like I am on the
verge of a breakthrough. This happens when it appears like all hell is
breaking loose. When trials and challenges come all at once and we wonder, “Really? What more?” We feel restless. We’re
feeling at odds with people, circumstances, and our own sense of peace is
disrupted. We feel anxious, scared, unsure, and
alone. We are being tossed about in the wind, bending to the hurricane winds.
When this happens, rest
assured that change is coming. It’s as if these trials act to ready us and make
us receptive to introducing something new—Receptive even to God’s presence.
When we go through this, it’s as if something inside us is trying to shake us
awake to change. Can you feel it?
It’s not supposed to feel
safe and tranquil when we are being shaken awake. Often when things are
peaceful and flowing smoothly, we just don’t want to rock the hammock. We just want to swing in it. If we’re
not careful, years will pass in our slumber of complacency. It isn’t until we
are shaken at our core, that we break free from the crust that has settled on
us like fine dust accumulates over time.
To experience a robust venue
of life, we must be open and invite this shift that is on the verge of
happening. Feel the uneasiness, the disruption, and know it for what it is. It
is change knocking at our door. To open the door we have to get off the
hammock.
"Change is the esence of life. Be willing to surrender what you are for what you could become." —
Author Unknown
Ella Venezia
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Some good thoughts, Ella. I'm in the process of making some very big changes in the next month or so. However, these are tied to smaller changes I started making about a year ago. It's amazing how consistent action over time can add up.
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DeleteThank you for sharing how your process started with smaller changes over time. I did not get into that in my post, but change is most certainly a "process" which typicaly doesn't occur overnight. Our declaration for change may come overnight, but our working through it...putting the action behind the words, occurs over time. And as you said, it takes "consistent action." I wholeheartedly agree! That you have been consistent with your intention for change speaks of strength and perseverence. Because too many quit if they don't see immediate results. Not realizing that the breakthrough is in process.
God Bless you as you prepare for these changes coming in the months ahead. May God guide you, provide you the stamina and fortify you with courage as you push forward.
-Ella